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Does internet dating really work?
Totally! True love conquers all, even firewalls and various downloadable pop-up blockers! 17%  17%  [ 5 ]
Nah, it's a load of bull. 50%  50%  [ 15 ]
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I have noticed that there is alot of debate out there as to whether or not internet dating is worth the cyberspace that it occupies. Some say it's great, some say it's pathetic. I am none too crazy about it myself (how do you know that Susan isn't an Earl?). But that's just my opinion. This being said, I'd like to hear everyone else's. So what do you think? Internet Dating: Worth your time or not?


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OMG, this topic! :P

Its pretty silly, but completely harmless of course. (Unless you take it too far >_>) I don't see anything wrong with it because its usually just kids doing it, but it is pretty silly.

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Internet dating has to be the DUMBEST thing in the world (besides biology lol but thats my opinion)
You most likley have no idea who the person is and come on how can you have a relationship just by chatting to each other.
I think it's pretty pathetic, instead of being on the computer you should be out in the world if your looking for a relationship.


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It's a silly idea, as the chances of meeting this person are slim. I liked a girl from Australia (Krisp: st00f.), and the chances of meeting her are about zero. Plus, if you don't ever hear/see this person, how do you know they're for real?

Stick to real people.

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You've got to be pretty sad and have very bad social skills if you can only get a girlfriend via the Internet. I mean, geez, get out and MEET SOME REAL PEOPLE! It's not that hard, just wash every day and don't mention HTML when you're chatting up someone! :P

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I actually did have a long distance relationship going with someone for about 3 years (and met her in person a total of 3 times), but we broke up after she went to college and decided to galavant around for "new experiences", apparently just for the sake of such no matter what it meant for us. She went totally nuts.

That being said, I'm wary of it because it hurts just as much as any other relationship where you've met and engaged the person physically and confided in them, and trusted them.

As to the naysayers: Please enlighten me as to what your relationship is like if you never chat (e.g. engage in conversations) with your significant other. I imagine you don't skip the talk and junp right to pawing all over each other.

The point is if you're going to be serious about it, be serious about it. Don't be "like OMG LOL I LUV U", they are still another person who deserves your respect and are just as real as you are.

It doesn't matter how you meet someone, it matters how you treat them. I fail to see the inferiority of meeting a girl online as opposed to meeting a girl stone-drunk in a bar, being hooked up in a blind date by your "friends", hitting on the waitress in the restaurant, or any other means to find someone. It doesn't really matter how you meet the person, it is how you grow your relationship and how you treat them.

I'm done now.


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I agree with Deck Knight, why should you be restricted to people that live in your country? After all, if you love someone that doesn't mean you can't have a relationship long distance. It doesn't matter how you meet them. I couldn't care less if someone didn't live in my country, I'd love them no matter where they were in the world.


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Deck Knight wrote:
As to the naysayers: Please enlighten me as to what your relationship is like if you never chat (e.g. engage in conversations) with your significant other. I imagine you don't skip the talk and junp right to pawing all over each other.

It doesn't matter how you meet someone, it matters how you treat them. I fail to see the inferiority of meeting a girl online as opposed to meeting a girl stone-drunk in a bar, being hooked up in a blind date by your "friends", hitting on the waitress in the restaurant, or any other means to find someone. It doesn't really matter how you meet the person, it is how you grow your relationship and how you treat them.


Granted the psychological factors of long distance relationships are generally the same, but the physical differances (which is equally as valuable) are much different. Just because both people are rather young, doesn't mean that more physical interaction is unnecessary. Granted, young people confuse physical attraction more often for love than lust, but if you're in a serious relationship, physical, which includes "pawing" over eachother, is just as important as those long late night/bed conversations. Passion and attraction are important, like communication. Young relationships are initially pshysically initiated but doesn't mean they aren't incapable of having reasonable forms of communication and expression to one another.


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I would say it according what type of person you are and how you feel about the way of doing things in this manor.

I personally would never date over the web.

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I woudn't date over the web. You never know if someone is telling you the truth are lieing to you!!

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The Fire Queen wrote:
I woudn't date over the web. You never know if someone is telling you the truth are lieing to you!!


Given the number of people who will lie to your face in the world, you've no guarentee of honesty no matter where you meet someone theses days. Sure you know what they look like, but that says zilch about their character.


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Ya, but what if they say they are 17 when they are really 40. Over the web you would not have any idea, but if you could see them than you would. & there's a tone more of that kind of stuff.

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Online dating=bad!!!!!!!!!
92% OF ALL "GIRLS" on online dating are really named Frank and are definantly not female

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Did you know that 86.2% of all statistics are made up on the spot!?!?

And, lol internet dating.

If you can't meet someone in person, it's not going to happen. The internet does not convey emotion, and there has to be emotion in a dating relationship. Sure, you can talk to people, even meet people online, and build a relationship up to a "friends" level, but that's all.

Also, lol myspace.

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Deck Knight Wins the Topic. Twice.

The Fire Queen wrote:
Ya, but what if they say they are 17 when they are really 40. Over the web you would not have any idea, but if you could see them than you would. & there's a tone more of that kind of stuff.


I've got a pretty decent idea of how old *you* are.

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Deck Knight wrote:
hitting on the waitress in the restaurant,


Guilty :oops:

Also you never know who the person really is, like all those "Hey :) " Im's i get on AIM and then 5 seconds later "want to see pictures of me at some redirect link.com/my fake name" you know i really doubt those people Iming me to see there site is really the same people in those links. Or the storys on the news about the Internet preditors who pray on little boys and girls, or the little boys and girls looking to meet up with old men and really turn out to be cops.

You just never know who the person really is on the internet, how can you date/fall in love with a person you cant 100% be sure thats who they are portraying to be?

I would stick with meeting Real people off line.

And i have lolmyspace too, but thats to find my old highschool freinds.

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...and it's no worse than finding out that this girl who you utterly click with in a really short space of time is taken.

By ANOTHER girl.

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Ah, the internet, where the men are men, the women are men, and the little girls are FBI agents.

Sounds a bit crude, but it's essentially true. It is far too easy to lie over the Internet, whether it be age, gender, race, weight, or whatever. Your 17 year old 110 lb japanese girlfriend could easily be (and likely is) 20 years older, 100 lbs heavier, white as the full moon, and packing a little extra equipment in the danger zone, if you know what I mean.

Is it possible to find love on the Internet? Sure, within reason. Most people you hear that meet on the Internet and get married and such, for one thing, are able to actually meet. One doesn't (or at least shouldn't) get into an online "relationship" with the intent of it remaining long distance. It's not practical, and you're wasting both yours and the other person's time.

Really, if you're 15 or some nonsense, the Internet is the LAST place you should be looking for a relationship. Aren't there dances or some other social things at your school? Or, you know, those points between classes? Seriously, go talk to someone, you know, face to face. With your vocal cords and mouth. Not your fingers and a monitor.


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I think I have an explaination as to why this happens.

Some people are nervous around potential lovers. Others have absolutely no social skills and know it, too. Still others are insecure with themselves and their ability to attract the opposite gender (or same gender...whatever floats your boat... :wink: ).

This is where the internet is perfect for them. A vast wonderland where you can actually communicate with people without ever having ot meet them face to face. Self conscious people see it as a "safe" haven where they can assume a false persona or air of confidence that they always wish they could have out in the real world.

It is a scientific fact, actually. Think about it...do you want to date some whispery, insecure little field mouse or someone who is bold, strong, and passionate? It comes down to raw instinct. In the real world, everyone has the capability to exude such an aura, but not everyone does. If everyone did, we would be reproducing like crazy and the population would explode worse than it already has. It's called natural selection. Survival of the fittest.

Anyway, in cyberspace, the usually shy field mice are not intimidated by other people. They feel in control, on top, they can be whoever or whatever they want to be for a change since they don't have to face their peers head on. For once, they can be the lead dog. Well, they eventually get caught up with this new persona, choking on their own false confidence, and end up trying to date over the web. That is why some people use the excuse that the net is the only place they can meet people; It's actually the only place that they exude that particularly alluring aura. And with no need for pictures or visual contact, no one is judged by their appearance, and thus the internet dating world is a gold mine for insecure, self doubting people who want to be loved just like anyone else in the world. Hence why so many angst-ridden pre- teens are reported tangled up in these internent relationships (not to stereotype all you pre-teens out there or anything).

Is it right? No. I personally think that it is ridiculous. A waste of time and a cop out to facing one's fear of confronting love. However, to some, it is a final option, foolish as it may seem to those on the outside looking in.


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Im all for internet dating, not like 100% actually but I dont mind it, I wouldnt look down on anybody that did it. Ive done it. Theres nothing wrong with it, like 2x4b and somebody else said to repeat, why be restricted to people near you? Eh?

Theres nothing wrong with it, alas dating somebody that lives near you is better. :P

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Yes, there's a chance that the person on the other end is a total lie. But it's like someone else said before - there's a chance pretty much anyone you meet in real life could be a total lie as well.

If people want to do it, and it works for them, then so be it. Best if they live closer, and if you plan to meet sometime...but hey, if you want to date someone from another country that you may never meet (though I don't know how that could be considered dating, but meh), go ahead. There's nothing really wrong with it, or that I could see, anyway.

As for me, I don't think I could do it. Sure, I've developed feelings for someone I've talked to online before, but I wouldn't want it to go any farther than that. I'd hate to fall head over heels for someone I could never hug, or lay eyes upon. Just ain't my style.


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Internet Dating is for personal experiance, wiether or not you belive in it. I don't belive in internet dating, for the fact of meting Frank.

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Internet dating sounds like a risky business to me.

As many said before, many people could easily lie about anything, such as their name, age, and gender. Also some said that when people chat on IMs or whatever, it is easy to be fooled by what they have written. That is because there is no tone to it. "I love you" can mean nothing if it has no feeling behind it. So you could be easily fooled into thinking that someone is a completely different person and that they "truly" love you.

Granted that a friend of mine has found a boyfriend over the internet. I was a little worried about her meeting him though. Even if a person gives you a picture of themself doesn't tell you anything. The picture could be a fake. It turns out that they got along just fine when they met. The problem is that they live far apart from each other (different states) so, he or my friend has to take a long trip just to get there. It makes me wonder how long they can last.... Long distance relationships are hard to maintain.

What I have heard (from a teacher of mine... so label these statistics as credible or not, it's up to you ^.^;; ) that the number one way of finding a boyfriend/girlfriend is through internet dating websites. But I also heard (same teacher ^.^;; ) that one out of every five people on internet dating websites are sexual predators. That would be a 20% chance of meeting a sexual predator. Sure, the odds are in your favor, but there still is a chance that you could choose the wrong person. Then you'd be in trouble. I'd rather not take my chances, thank you.

I've heard stories of people finding each other over the internet and they are happy. Some of them end up getting married. I also believe a few people I know have parents that met over the internet. So, you could get lucky and find that special someone. It just depends on if you are willing to take the risk or not.

Oh, and don't get me started on myspace. :roll: I swear there is some sort of report on it on the news every day. Some girl lied about her age and met this guy. Some guy met this girl and they tried to run away together. Some girl tried to fly out of the country to marry this guy... It's getting ridiculous... >_<

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Internet dating is realy pretty silly because
1. you dont meet the girl or man
2. you dont know there personality they could be nice on internet and horrible in real world
3. they could be going out with somone
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internet dating is stupid

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I think that internet datin is a great way to meet new people, even if u don't take it any further than frends!
i've had a go at internet dating, just to see if it cud help me find a guy, and i turned out that i didn't find the right guy, but in the process, i have made lots of mew frends, and we talk nearly every day, and if they want help with findin a man too, then they ask me to help them. and we have arranged meet ups too, where we go out, like to the cinema, or night out, or even a night in.
So, yeah, i'm all for internet dating, and if my current boyfrend splits up with me, (which i hope he dusnt, coz i luv him!), then i will probably use inernet datin again.


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